I adored my grandmother. Even more so now that she's gone. My memories of her are profound and the lessons she taught me, enduring. She not only taught me well, but she led by example. Even though it has been nine years since she has passed, I still take her advice and follow her lead. I follow her, for she followed Christ.
As for me, I really don't know what it means to do the big things; things of great importance, of fame or lofty merit. Ours is the way of a servant. I take care of the small, or base needs that have a part in sustaining a group, or human family. My grandmother referred to it as "helps"; mentioned as one of the gifts of the spirit in the New Testament, the overlooked one. Yes, it's the little things that often go unnoticed by others that are of great importance. Can you serve God by doing "the little things?" You bet you can and the field is wide open, pick any position, start anywhere. There is not much competition in doing the little things, so it's often a quiet work,(peaceful) and the good thing is that there is no struggling over who gets to do what, or deliberating on how we are going to do it, you just prayerfully proceed and "do with your strength what your hands find to do." (smile) Ahh, the secrets of the lowly are sweet.
So, to continue on in that vein, I'll say that every now and then we see something that needs to be done. My grandmother used to say, "Not everyone has eyes, not everyone can see. If you see something that needs to be done, do it." So simple, so plain, so elementary; no committee needed. With so few available to do the little things, maybe it has more to do with eyesight; being able to focus on the small, sometimes thankless tasks right before our eyes.
Well, recently I took notice of something, I saw something that required more than love and concern, I saw individuals who once were so strong, beginning to experience afflictions and in some cases, seemingly, great difficulty. It is almost like it happened overnight. It didn't of course, but one day I woke up, I saw with my eyes, and I realized that they were in need of care. I didn't vow, because I hesitate to make a vow, yet in my mind and heart I knew that I must be mindful and begin to care for them in an active way...like my grandmother would have. (She would have been on this, long before my eyes were open. Her eyesight was that of a hawk and her flight swifter than an eagle when rushing in to help.)
When people have been an integral part of a group; always there, leading the way, in church all the time, never missing a thing - and the tables are turned, they being the one in need, I think they are easily and unfortunately overlooked because they've always been so strong. They may even turn away help when someone asks if they need anything; they are used to being a helper and not the one helped. (My grandmother used to sternly warn us not to say, "if you need anything, give me a call." She didn't believe in that. She believed in visiting the sick, the shut-in, the poor, etc. and taking something for them, even if it were just a few apples (Her apples were usually surrounded by a crust, called pie) or a pot of soup, anything as a token of love and concern. Concerning bringing something she also used to say, "When visiting the sick, take roses, not thorns." In other words, mind your conversation, let your words be seasoned with grace; words that uplift.
So, this recent awakening caused me to think back at something she committed herself to, a big commitment which lasted for years. I'll start by saying that our family is one of those that always had Sunday dinners where it seemed as though everyone was invited, there was always room for one more and plenty of food. (Thank God, he has blessed us with plenty) I remember my grandparent's house especially being one that was full of "the saints". (The scripture uses that word in reference largely to the living fold of God, not the deceased.) Anyway, there was a family in our church who traveled quite a distance to get to church. Not everyone prepares a Sunday dinner and invites others in. Because of this, that particular family did not often get an invitation for dinner. My grandmother hated to see them going home without any type of refreshment. She vowed within herself that they would never go home without a meal or at least an invitation. I remember them being at my grandmother's table every Sunday for years. Even well into the time where it was becoming difficult for her to manage. She had an expression, "We have to help to roll them over the tide." What tide? The tide that takes them on into the next life. And she did. It seemed as though that was probably her last BIG JOB, and that in totality, went largely unnoticed by others. But not me. To me, that was greatness. With my eyes I saw it, from beginning to end, I beheld an example.
And now fifteen or so years later, this is what comes to mind when I look upon our congregation and I see the needs of the saints. My grandmother is gone, the strength of our elderly is now fleeting, and it is my turn to look after the aged. I think I'll prepare a little extra food today, enough to share. I think instead of going shopping or busying myself with the unimportant, I'll make time for a visit. Come with me.
"And of some, having compassion, making a difference." Jude 1:22
Showing posts with label observations. Show all posts
Showing posts with label observations. Show all posts
11/8/08
Eyes to See
11/5/08
Election Day Chuckle
Yesterday I did my civic duty and voted. Now don’t worry this post will not be about politics in any way, shape or form. I’m a firm believer in keeping my political opinions private and quiet. I was, however, a bit worried about all the news reports that said I’d have to wait in line 4 hours to vote, but thankfully that was not the case in my precinct.
Walking into the school where my precinct is located is always an experience. It’s like running the gauntlet or some weird adult version of trick or treat crossed with Election Day. Every local candidate has there representatives out in force. They are handing you their last bits of information, I guess hoping that you’ll change your mind at the last minute and vote another way. Whatever. I’m pretty much decided by the time I reach this point. In my state you can’t have any political handouts visible where you actually cast your ballot. Knowing this I began shoving all the paraphernalia I collected on my short walk into the building into my purse. Keeping it out of sight, not wanting to create a problem or a scene. Wouldn’t that have been fantastic, appearing on the local news because I forgot to stow the free nail file I got on my way in? I shove all the junk away and wait my turn. Cast my vote and head home. The whole process only took about 30 minutes. Thank goodness. When I got home I began to empty my pockets and my purse. I begin to examine the stuff I collected. A ubiquitous nail file. (I think my mom has one from every election she’s actually voted in.) A Hershey’s mini wrapped in another candidates logo, assorted pamphlets and cards of information and the thing that made me laugh the hardest. A dinner mint in the wrapper pictured above.
Upon close inspection of said mint, you will notice that it is a very poor replica of a $5,000 dollar bill. Never mind that the $5,000 bill had a picture of James Madison on it and was virtually discontinued by 1969, and this mint wrapper has a lovely likeness of Albert Einstein on it. Here’s the part that made me laugh, when I looked closely at the wrapper I noticed it says on it: “THIS NOTE IS NOT LEGAL TENDER.” Well, duh! Seriously? I can’t really use this teeny, tiny $5,000 bill to purchase something? What a gyp! I laughed for about 5 minutes. When I calmed down, something came to me. You know when you see some weird warning or disclaimer it is because someone has actually tried to do whatever the warning or disclaimer is telling you not to do. Which just started me laughing all over again. I can see it now, someone walking into a store to purchase something, and handing over the mini mint wrapper as payment. It boggles the mind. I wish I could remember which candidate was handing them out; I’d send them an email to tell them they made me laugh, in a good way.
10/31/08
Halloween is over
Well, Halloween is officially over. By that I mean trick or treating, 6-8 p.m., is over and the Halloween decorations can come down and we can roll the big ole'
Jack-o-lantern down over the hill into the woods. My husband always goes over board on the candy, handing out the BIG bars, which seems to be a thing of the past. This year I told him to knock it off, take it easy...did he listen? He bought three cases, the kind that Costco sells, with 24 bars in each box. We got one car load of six children this evening, that's it. Tim gave them each two, so that means we have 60 chocolate bars to eat between the three of us, 20 a piece. I don't want to do that. We'll have to find another way to get rid of the candy. It can't stay in the house. The only will power I have is not having it around.
Now I must begin to acknowledge a host of November birthdays and begin planning our Thanksgiving dinner. This is a great time of year!
10/26/08
When In Doubt, Throw It Out!
I had to chuckle reading T’s post about her visit here. Yes, there was a Scrabble tournament, if you will, at my house. I did lose, which was no fun, but being an advocate of good sportsmanship, I still was able to laugh and enjoy the game. Every once in a while I would blurt out, “I quit!” (Have you ever played with a sore loser? It is amazing, at times, how even grown people can get ugly or weird when they are losing.) When T is losing we tell her to “Try Harder!”, which I’m sure she hates. Still, you can’t tell me that someone who knows the answer to every question couldn’t be more aggressive. Oh well, we’ll get her next time. Oh yeah!
As I read T’s post I thought for sure that she would tell the part where I almost poisoned her. Funny, because in past posts she has said such nice things about me as a hostess, it makes me want to meet myself.
It’s true, on Saturday we went to our LC conference, where much to our surprise she is nominated for Vice President and wins the election. She was surprised and taken back but I knew she was perfectly suited for it. Prior to the elections she had to go up front and give a report. I saw it then. We knew we needed a new VP. No, I wasn’t the one who nominated her, but when she was nominated I just said a little prayer. We always want to do the will of God, no matter where we are or what we are doing. Whether we are called upon to do small things or great things, we always have that prayer in our heart that if the Lord wants to use us for some good, we want to be open to it and available to Him. And if per chance we are called upon by some fluke and taken by surprise, we pray, Lord, if this isn’t your will, don’t let it happen. Well, sure enough, it happened.
So after a day of enjoyable events and service, we returned to my house only to find that it was supper time and no one was around. So I said, Well, it’s just us, we’ll go ahead and eat. This is where the little snafu comes in.
I have to go back one day to tell you what happened. I knew I was having company that weekend. The temperatures have gotten colder and I thought, what a perfect time to have a big pot of soup. (I can make good chicken noodle soup. So did my mother and my grandmother, with a very simple list of ingredients.) So I went to the store, not just any grocery store but one known for having good meat. I purchased two chickens cut up. This was going to be one big pot of soup. I cooked the chicken for a few hours, deboned it, strained the broth…it was lovely. I could imagine how we would all enjoy it over and over again during the weekend. I didn’t finish with it until 9 p.m. Friday evening. It was boiling hot and I had to let it cool. At 11 p.m. I carried it downstairs to put it in the frig, but the frig was full. I set the soup on the counter and began to rearrange the contents of the frig as to accommodate this large pot of soup. I had to remove some things and put them in the upstairs frig. Well, when I went upstairs, I forgot about the soup. I went to bed and awakened at 8 a.m. I wanted to cook the noodles and then add them to the cold soup (so they wouldn’t get mushy) only to discover that I had let the soup sit out all night. I was sick. I froze just staring at that large pot of soup that I labored over. My mind was racing with thoughts. My first thought was, there is no way I am throwing that soup out...I worked so hard...I bought special chicken...It was going to be so delicious. I made up my mind…we are eating this soup, and I put it in the frig and T and I left for our meeting.
Fast forward, we return from the meeting, like I said, no one is home and we are going to eat this soup. (I have to say in my own defense that I never take chances like this, and especially not with company) A command decision has been made and the wheels are in motion and I'm ladeling the soup into two bowls. An expression my grandmother used to say came to mind, “When in doubt, throw it out.” I decide to call my mother and tell her what has happened and finish the story with, I’M SERVING IT! She says, okay.
The soup is hot and the table is set. T and I sit down, ask a blessing on the food, and begin to eat. It doesn’t take long to get to the bottom of the bowl, say five minutes, and the phone rings and it’s my mother. She says, I wouldn’t serve the soup. It’s not worth it if someone gets sick. I glance at T’s bowl , and hesitate. She sees this and says, What? I say, Nothing. She says, No, what? I say in a higher voice, Nothing. She knows and commands me to explain (I sit down to break the news). Well, I say, it’s the soup. I left it sit out all night and my mom called to say we shouldn’t eat it. We look at our bowls as though we had just consumed the poisoned apple. T said, If it’s bad, I’ll be sick within a half an hour; sensitive stomach. To ward off any sense of doom or dread, I say, Well, I am having another bowl. I refill my bowl and just get ready to sit down and eat and my husband walks in the door and says, “What’s that off smell!” I cry out, “IT’S THE SOUP!!”
Thankfully, T didn’t get sick, to which she claims is a real honest to goodness miracle. I, on the other hand, had to stay close to the bathroom the next day. (Retribution for good hostess, gone bad)
So, the joke was that weekend, that there was an assassination attempt on the VP. Funny!
No more questionable food served at my house. I promise. When in doubt…throw it OUT!
Still here...
I feel like I’m coming back from a blogging vacation. It’s been awhile and admitting to being a slacker, as I have in 2 previous posts, just seems like the worst excuse ever. :) In truth, real life has been a bit hectic. I think the last time I actually posted I mentioned that I was on my way to see J. We had a church conference to attend that was in Pennsylvania and in addition to being involved in the national women’s group of our church it was a great opportunity to spend time with J and her family.
We had a good conference. There were things to discuss and consider. Being a part of and being active in an organization can be a wonderful experience. If it’s something you are passionate about it can be fulfilling. Thankfully, we have been able to be apart of an organization we enjoy working in on both a local and a national level.
Being active is important. Whatever you choose to give time to, it’s important to be present to the choice. Nice words, hopefully I’ll be able to live up to them.
I almost forgot. When I was visiting J her daughter was in town visiting as well. The three of us played Scrabble. I admit to starting the game with a fair amount of trepidation, I was sure they smelled blood in the water. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree and J’s daughter is following in her mother’s footsteps and is also a killer Scrabble player. Is there a name for a Scrabble enthusiast? I’ll have to check that out, but I digress. I’ve mentioned that almost every time I’ve played with J she has beaten me, soundly. I think the first time we played I won, I realized much later that she was simply lulling me into a false sense of security, since then I’ve lost at a fairly steady rate. And yet, in light of my impressive number of losses against the Master, we played. I think J must have been tired from her week, because miracle of miracles, I actually scored more than she did! Yes, it’s true, and I was stuck with the Q, J and the Z! Truth be told, J’s daughter won it all in the last play of the game, but I’m claiming my small victory. It may never happen again! I don’t care if J did get stuck with all the vowels in the game…all’s fair in love and Scrabble.
10/7/08
Random thoughts or slacker redux
Here are some random, thoughts I’ve had today.
I was pleasantly surprised that with my new Fusion I do not have to get the oil changed until 5,000 miles. Because I am a neurotic about these things I called to verify, and yes it is true! Yippee! I hate doing car maintenance. I also hate getting gas. I always say if I ever get married I’m having that written into the vows. If I have to obey, he should have to take care of the cars and fill up my gas tank. It’s never going to happen but I like thinking about it.
I got my haircut today. Not anything really unusual about that. But I did find out that my stylist is quite the political activist. She chatted quite enthusiastically about her candidate of choice. I sat very quiet and did not comment for two reasons. One, she was cutting my hair!!! And, two, I did not agree with her. I wear glasses and can’t actually see what she’s doing while she cuts my hair, if I disagreed aloud with her I might walk out of there with a mohawk!
This weekend I’m going to be visiting J, we have a church thing that takes place in PA, twice a year. So, of course, in an effort to prepare for a weekend trip I was doing some laundry last night. Here is one of the perils of apartment living with community laundry facilities. I had already washed a load and started another; I was waiting for the first one to dry. When I heard the dryer go off, I went down to switch, only to find that someone had taken out my clothes from the washer, threw them on the counter and put their clothes in the washer! This is the second time it’s happened and I’m just as furious as I was when it happened the first time. What if I had more than 2 loads to wash? They jumped the line! Thankfully, my first load was my underwear, which I put in the dryer myself. I’m not sure I like the idea that some stranger is going through my clothes, and I really don’t like the thought of someone messing around with my under things. I had several really mean retaliatory thoughts come to mind, but I ended up just quietly fuming and walking back to my apartment. Sigh…I may need to read the scripture about vengeance again.
My 16 year old nephew made the homecoming court; he is one of the ‘princes’ for the Junior class. When did this tradition start? When I was in high school this was for the Senior class only. My sister called me to let me know of this milestone in his high school career. Funny, he told my sister that a friend of his that was on the balloting committee and told him that he had a lot of votes. My sister told him don’t get too excited about it until you know for sure. Today my nephew called home to tell his mom he made the court. My sister, trying to downplay this lest he be disappointed, said “DJ how do you know you made the court?” He said, “Mom they announced my name on the p.a. and I’m wearing a sash.” Anyway they have homecoming this weekend, which he is also taking a date to!? How did this happen? My 16 year old nephew has now had more dates in this decade than I have!
After I got my haircut today, I participated in some ritualistic humiliation, also known as trying on clothes. I thought I might just try on a few things maybe make a purchase. I HATE trying on clothes, which is why I have 5 pairs of athletic shoes (yes, I know weird because I don’t exercise, they’re comfortable what can I say). I tried on two things; one was even not brown, black or navy blue! Alas, they did not flatter me. They went on the discard rack and I left the mall. I was really only there to buy perfume anyway. Perfume doesn't care what size you are.
I’m now sitting at home, fielding phone calls, watching Bizarre Foods on cable and working on the computer. I actually do have things I should be doing instead of blogging, but I was trying to strike when the inspiration hit me.
Still not sure if this was inspiration, but J I posted!!!
10/3/08
I'm a slacker...
It's true. I am a blogging slacker. Not intentionally or with purpose, but still one who has been neglecting her blogging obligations. Thankfully, J, my dear friend, has been carrying the banner for us both while I have been dropping the ball of late.
Since we’re on that subject, J really is a wonderful writer. It’s funny. We are having a bit of a role reversal here. Not that I’m a prolific writer by any means, I am absolutely not, but I usually nudge her to write more frequently. She writes a blog of sorts for the national women’s group for our church, (I’m tech support), and we were talking once about that very thing, her posting more frequently. She mentioned she was feeling some pressure. I sort of laughed and asked why? She said sometimes writing something of that magnitude was like passing a kidney stone. We both got a good chuckle at that. However, I admit here that this is a pretty accurate assessment. I did not necessarily agree then, but I do now. You were right, J. I bow to the master. :)
Lately I feel like I have nothing to blog about. And currently, aside from the scripture classes I have to prepare for, I have nothing I’m even researching right now. I think I have genuine writer’s block. How does one break writer’s block? I Googled it. Yes, seriously, I Googled how to break writer's block. I am an information junkie so what else would I do when I’ve been looking at a blank screen for an hour with the flashing cursor taunting me. One of the suggestions is to write about why you’re stuck. Ok, let’s free associate on why I have writer’s block for a moment.........................................Yep, no idea. Another suggestion was to write your obituary. You're kidding, right? That would take about 2 minutes and 10 words. That suggestion is getting tossed. Another site I looked at had a bunch of scantily clad female supermodels on it with writing tips sandwiched in between. Yeah, I guess that might work for some, not for me. I closed that site and immediately deleted my temp files.
I have several things that I feel passionately about. I often wonder if this is the proper forum to talk about those things. Don’t worry they are not controversial, by any stretch of the imagination. I just wonder if they are things that are only important to me. And since we have a total of 5 readers (which fluctuates on an almost daily basis) and ZERO commenters you just gotta wonder maybe the stuff that is interesting to us is simply not interesting to the masses, or, ahem, the 5 readers we have.
While I’m writing this thought provoking post, J sends me an email that she’s home working in her office (See this post) and to give her a call if I have time. It’s my lunch break so I call. After a few minutes of discussion about a few different things, she asks me if I am feeling bogged down. I asked why she would ask me that. She said “because you haven’t posted since January of 2006!” A joke, of course, but I appreciate that she asked. Maybe that’s it. Maybe J's right and I am feeling bogged down. Stranger things have happened I suppose. Thankfully, it’s Friday. I’m going to go home and try to catch up on the things that I’ve been leaving half done. Or I could lie on the couch all weekend eating chocolate and try to get un-bogged…or whatever the opposite of bogged down is. Now that idea has merit. Hmmm, what is the opposite of bogged down…I may need to do a little research.
A Space Of My Own
I relish days like this. I'm off work, in my pj's, hair standing straight up, enjoying my coffee and I intend to stay home all day and just organize "my stuff". Since my two older kids are out of the house now, we've relegated one of the small bedrooms as office space for me. It's all mine! (I'm not heartless - I offered my husband about 12" of space on my desk top but he has passed on the offer. He's letting me have it all. Besides, he's had his own space(s) since forever! It's finally my turn.)
Every parent knows the joy of having a space of their own after years of enjoying and tending to a bustling, busy family. I remember guarding my purse because it was the only thing that was my own. Everyone knew, mitts off and don't even think of opening it up and rooting around in there - even though the only thing they might find is a piece of gum laying on the bottom or a stray fuzzy Life-saver. (Hence the hunt) Now it's different - I have a place of my own. (The purse is still off limits)
I hope this encourages all our many readers, all 4 or 5 of you, depending on the day, to carve out a little space of your own. It's delicious. Who needs drugs or caffeine - I love this room; it's just me and my stuff. Let the creative juices flow!
10/2/08
Donating Blood
I just got home from work and picked up the mail on the way in. As I'm leafing through it, I notice that my youngest son is once again invited to give blood at the school he attends. It was just a month or so ago that he received a notice in the mail stating that the last batch of blood he gave was "low" and he needed to wait before giving again.
Giving blood is a wonderful thing but I don't think it's right to harvest blood from school-aged children, even college kids. Yes, they are old enough to vote and go to war but they are still just kids. For example:
I said, Andrew, donating too much blood is not healthy. He said, I donate every time they come to the school. I said, why? He said, "Because they give me a cookie."
9/28/08
Old Dogs Don't Very Often Learn New Tricks
I know a woman who is married to a man with rage. Pity, she's so nice. And even though the old dog she's married to isn't as strong as he used to be - he still bites.
Speaking of old dogs...I remember my sister-in-law had an old dog. One day she and her husband got into a heated argument and the dog bit her quite severely on the ankle. The next day she made an appointment at the vet and had him neautered, nails trimmed and teeth cleaned, all in one visit.
She sure knew how to handle that old dog.
9/27/08
Joy To The World - Joy To You And Me!
I started the day as I always do. I became conscious at around 5:50 a.m. I am wakened by the little inner clock of an early bird. It's still dark outside so I have no way to gauge what time it is. I move my pillow aside only to see that it's really too early to get up, so I force myself to stay there until six. (Yes, it's only ten minutes, but if you get up too early, you're ready for bed at 7 p.m.) As soon as I stir, the girls; Kia and Maggie, are on their feet and ready to escort me to the kitchen. It's another lovely morning, although still dark outside. First order of business - make coffee. Ah...I love this part of the day. (Is there some way to spell the "screeching halt" sound?) Insert it here.
I hear the garage door go up and in walked my 19 year old son, explaining himself before I can say a word. He fell asleep on his girlfriends couch and they didn't want to wake him, so her FATHER threw a blanket over him. (Do you think I believe that?! I'm a mother, married to a father, there is no way in H___ that a father is going to throw a blanket over his daughter's boyfriend. No way!) Before he can finish stammering, I say, "Were you drinking?" No, he swears. I say whatever...don't do it again.
The coffee is ready and I try to resume my morning ritual as he trails off to bed. (As parents get older, they mellow out; they're tired.)
My other son is in town for a wedding. He flew in last night. I was already in bed when he came home, reclining with my husband, he with his laptop and I with mine. (We're so twenty first century - NOT!) Our son tells us that his back is stiff from traveling. I say, Lay down here and I'll give you a back rub. No, he says, that's o.k. I say, Well, get your p.j.'s on and come back, we'll talk. (He doesn't know how to break it to me) I'm going to Neil's, it's his last night as a bachelor. (He sees my disappointment, even though I'm already drowsy) I told you mom, it's Neil's wedding, I told you it would be like this. Okay, whatever, be careful, I say.
So now it's morning, Andrew goes to bed and Nick is up and waiting for Neil to pick him up. The wedding is today and of course they have to get moving. I ask Nick if he wants an omelet. No, he can't, as he watches the road. He sits and tries to give me a little attention before he goes. (I know it must sound funny, but I do feel a bit bad.) I try to be cheerful and say, "What time will you be home?" He says that he's staying at the hotel over night. I say, For what?! The family has rented a block of rooms. So, again I say, Whatever. Beep, beep...it's Neil. Be careful, I say.
Now I'm feeling not so cheerful, not so happy. Well, I'm no slug, I've got things to do. I decide I'll run my Saturday morning errands and get back early, just spend the day at the house, enjoying myself.
Well, much to my delight I ran across a garage sale while I was out. What a way to turn the day around! I got a turkey taureen and cookie jar in creamy white, the same color as my Pfaltzgraff every day dishes. I had recently looked up "turkeys" and "taureens" on ebay to see if I could get something nice for the Thanksgiving table. I can't believe my luck, and they are only $2.00 each. Both really handsome pieces. I also bought a neat looking green box with a rabbit painted on it - $1.00. It's the same color green as our small antique lamp on the entry table. Cool! It'll take it. There was also a great lamp made of metal; a sphere with an arrow through it. (That will look terrific in Andrew's room or the den!) Before I leave I spy a tall stainless steel magnifying mirror - $2.00! I'm thrilled and back up on the mountain.
Our kids have to grow, leave the nest and make their own decisions. It's hard not making their decisions for them, and letting them think for themselves. They've heard all my advise. Just like the president and his top advisor, I was on the job giving my kids advise - full time. Now it's not needed. Not that I don't feel the need to share all of my accumulative advise with them, they don't feel the need to take it. I guess as their Top Advisor - I've been laid off.
I want to leave you with an up-note, I'm now getting back to some of the things I love, such as crocheting, sewing, arts, crafts, books, and scripture study. Let's not forget the new ventures such as blogging and volunteering. My life is quite busy and changing rapidly, or so it seems. I'm going to be prayerful about all things that concern me, thankful for God's blessings, and rest in the Lord. I won't to let worry or change rob me of the joy that God intended for us to have.
Joy to the world - joy to you and me!
9/26/08
Fatty McButterpants
Well, it's time to slim down again. I don't know why I lose weight only to turn around and gain it back. Is it considered yo-yo dieting when it's only ten pounds or so? I guess the qualifying piece of evidence; up and down, up and down. I've answered my own question.
My dog Maggie has a good extra ten pounds on her as well. When she is standing, it's not as noticeable, but when she lays down, well, she is sort of sow like. (We all look better when we're standing, right?)
The quest begins to deflate the mid-section. This morning I had a banana and coffee with sugar-free creamer. (I know the creamer is not on any suggested diet menu but I'm not giving that up - it's part of a morning routine that I thoroughly enjoy and look forward to every day.) It's 8:17 a.m. and I just had a piece of Easter Bread, plain, no butter. (Yes, I know, it's not even mid-morning, but a friend made it and gave it to me. How nice! I couldn't refuse, right? I graciously accepted the bread Wednesday evening and now it's Friday morning and I've been chipping away at it. That has to go. It's so wonderfully soft and yummy, yes, that has to go.
I like the thought of exercise, I think about it all the time. I cut out information about it; exercise routines for the arms, the abs, the butt, the legs, you name it. But honestly, I don't like to exercise. I guess most people don't, but not exercising for them, is not an option, they just do it. Isn't that Nike's slogan, JUST DO IT!
So we did it! I put Maggie on a leash and we went for a walk. (We left Kia behind because she's skinny and does not do well on a leash. My husband said that when Maggie and I walked out the door, Kia watched us until we were out of sight. He said she made a sound that could only be considered a mournful cry. How sad, but since she's like having a kangaroo on a leash, we had to leave her behind. My husband, Tim, will work with her so she can be included on the walks someday.
Maggie was as proud and happy as can be to be out on a walk with her mom. She was alert, moved right along, smiling all the way. I suppose the total distance was one mile. For me, a good start. I suppose I should submit "before and after" pictures of she and I. Should I? That would be brave.
If I walk everyday and watch what I eat, no one would be abe to call us a Fatty McButterpants, now will they?
Even though I'm on a diet, I'm including my friends recipe for Easter Bread.
(Don't ask for clarifications - it's one of those old time recipes with scanty directions)
Mom's Easter Bread
2 T. sugar for each egg used
2 T. melted shortening for each egg used
lemon rind from 3 lemons
1 cake yeast melted in about 1/2 C. Milk
5 lbs. flour
1-1/2 dozen eggs
Knead 2 times and let rise overnight. Roll to desired shape and let rise. Brush egg yolk on top. Bake at 350 degrees. Makes 7 rolls.
9/21/08
Is Anybody There...Is Anybody There?
Once there was a little girl named Julianna. Her father and mother were young and never married. They, from the beginning, did not seem to possess the needed parental instincts. Their baby was passed from home to home, and from one aunt to another depending on who could take care of her at the time. One day Julianna asked her aunt if she would take her to church. That was the first time our eyes fell upon the delightsome child - she entered the building and twirled down the isle. We all smiled at her Shirley Temple like appearance; the glowing smile and the golden curly locks of hair.
Her aunt's name was Teresa, probably in her early twenties, and even she was beaming at the apparent happiness brought to the little girl by being in church. (Julianna's mother was living in Ohio now, and of her brother, Teresa wasn't quite sure what to say. He was not present in the girl's life or able to help in any way. Teresa was living on her own with a boyfriend and had recently taken in her niece; the little girl who had been passed from house to house since the day she was born.)
None of us will ever forget the words of the young temporary caregiver. She said Julianna wakes up at night and calls out, "Is anybody there? Is anybody there?"
They visited a few times and before you know it, they were gone.
Some people we meet, we will never forget. Whether it be their stories, a few words; or a life that touches us deeply and leaves a lasting impression. We'll never forget Julianna. I think about her every now and then. I bet she is about 19 years old now. I hope she finished high school and looking forward to a bright future. I hope she has a home wherein she feels safe and secure. But most of all, I hope when in those night hours many years ago when she cried out, "Is anybody there? Is anybody there?" God comforted her.
(Psalm 68 "A father to the fatherless...is God in his holy habitation.")
9/18/08
Fall...My Favorite Time of the Year
Today I drove home from work with the air conditioning off and the windows down. With my arm extended out window and the cool autumn breeze swirling past me, bits of paper taking flight and dancing about the car. The sun is bright, a typical fall day and I put my over sized black sunglasses on. I feel so free and wonderful, like Easyrider without the chopper. Ah...it's good to be alive.
I stopped at Talbot's to make a return. Of course, I see a few things, to say the least, that would spruce up my wardrobe. I envision how fantastic I'll look and decide to try a few things on. For some reason I'm attracted to their Navy blue separates this year and with my arms full the Talbot's clerk offers to unburden me by carrying the first load back and getting a dressing room started. I follow her minutes later with a few more things to throw on the heap and I begin to try things on. I intend not to buy everything, only the pieces I absolutely love. Well girls, guess what, it was one of those days when you try on everything and nothing looks quite right. All this great stuff and I become discouraged almost immediately. Too big, too small, too long, too short...ugh!
My cell phone rings and it's my husband telling me that he can't wait around the house anymore. (Lowe's has a man coming out to replace our old dishwasher with a new one and he wants me to come home right away! His big emergency is that he is going trapshooting - so I have to rush home to oversee the stranger). Okay, I'm not having success anyway, so I thank my attendant and head for home.
Again, the windows are down just as before, sunglasses on, but I'm slightly discontented now. Hakuna Matata (No worries), I'll spring back.
I'm not so discouraged that I am giving up. Fall triggers the desire to buy school clothes even though many years have passed since we have had to do that. Most of us in the northern states still love or feel the need to add to our wardrobe when we see the fall/winter catalogues burgeoning from our mailboxes. (Now is the time to pity those 'who live where the sun always shines'. We got one over on you in this department. I have a friend in FL who has a beautiful winter coat that she takes time to pet once in a while; she never gets to wear it.
Speaking of clothing and winter, I recently heard a joke from a Jeff Foxworthy skit. He claims that Pittsburgh's are the only ones who have to get a Halloween costume that's big enough to fit over their snowsuit. (Laughter) That is a good one! Another poor southern boy who evidently has been deprived of the joy that comes from the change of seasons. He's right though. I remember when my grandfather passed away. The funeral was Oct. 31. We experienced an untimely blizzard. The weather was so bad I didn't think that anyone would come to the funeral home for the viewing, with the exception of family. Weather was no deterrent, thank God, they all came.
Getting back to the desire for new clothes, really, I'd like to start over. Stacy and Clinton, come and get me. (Don't sign me up for that "T", I would have to kill you) Honestly though, wouldn't it be great to have someone help you to buy the clothes that flatter you instead of a closet full of "I missed the mark". My wardrobe is fair, I could do so much better (especially if I had $5000.00 to do it with). In my defense, I have no sweaters with people or dogs on them, I'm not wearing my lingerie outside of the bedroom, and I have nothing that would provoke someone on the street to scream out "Beam me up Scottie." (I'm sure "T" has something in her closet like that. I'm fairly confident that she wouldn't sport it out and about, but who knows. When she sees William Shatner on those Priceline commercials, it may spur a glance toward the closet and a temptation to don one of those get-ups. I'll have to pop in on her when the old re-runs of Star Trek are on and see how quickly she's able to answer the door. Just kidding "T")
I once read an article where a woman transformed her life by getting rid of everything she didn't need. She eliminated almost all of her clothing, only keeping a few pair of pants, a few shirts, a dress or two, just a couple pair of shoes, and so on, with everything in her house. Even down to the pens and pencils, she just kept one or two of each. Actually my mother shared this article with me and as she read our eyes twinkled with unburdened delight at the thought that something like this could be possible. Could we dare to unload even half of the stuff we have acquired? It would be great wouldn't it? I remember George Carlin had a skit where he said something like, 'we get rid of stuff so we can go out and buy more stuff.' Isn't that the truth?
Last year as part of our Ladies' Circle lesson we read in Luke where it says, "He that hath two coats, let him impart to him who hath none." Our little group had a coat drive and donated the proceeds to our local food and clothing bank. (Even with three coats gone and two vests, our closets are still packed full) One woman who donated said she actually only had two coats, and yes, she donated one. I was compelled to stop her, but who am I to rob her of her blessing.
Let's unload, unburden, get rid of, donate, sell, declutter, and then get yourself something nice for fall! I think I'll go back and get that navy sweater!
9/17/08
I think I'm falling apart or we apologize but your warranty has expired...
I think I’m falling apart. Seriously. I’m not really worried about this. I’ve had a good run so far. I’m relatively healthy. I say relatively only because there are a hundred things that I could employ to make me healthier. And I could make a million excuses but it simply comes down to this one fact. I don’t want to.
To plead my case for being only relatively unhealthy I have a few things to admit. I have never smoked, ever. Nothing. Not even a drag off of someone else’s. I never did drugs, never drank. Seriously, I’m not even lying because I’m afraid someone in cyberspace will be able to come up with my real life identity. I was the kid that never tested their parents sanity, they said don’t do this I said ok. And I had an inordinate fear that God would somehow reveal my transgression to my dad and that would be worse than actually doing whatever I wasn’t supposed to do. At that point I was way more worried about my dad than God, and yes, this has changed since I’ve grown up a bit.
I have always been overweight. Not morbidly overweight, just not thin. When I was younger I read in the Garfield comics that Garfield wasn’t fat he was under tall. I adopted that particular mantra. So, I have a chronic case of under tall. I also heard the word zaftig used to describe a celebrity. I definitely looked that word up and when I got older I adopted that word to describe my body type. I will never be svelte, which is the word I really wish could be my descriptor, but hey, we all have our crosses to bear. At the beginning of this year J decided she needed to lose weight and tried talking me into getting on the dieting band wagon. I resisted for about 2 weeks and then acquiesced. I am still, more or less, on the diet. I say more or less because sometimes a girl just needs chocolate, Cherry Garcia Ice Cream or a really good loaf of bread. Not necessarily in one sitting, but I’m not opposed to the combination.
Back to my original thought of falling apart. Last week I was running late for work and ran out of the house without ingesting any caffeine. Which I really needed, by the way. I was going to stop at the Tim Horton’s near my work to get an Iced Cappuccino (I like cold coffee), however, the drive-thru line was out to the street, and since I was already late I passed on it. But I knew I still needed a caffeine fix. When I got to work I decided to get a Coke out of the pop machine, not what I usually drink in the morning, but any port in a storm. Put my money in, pushed the button, bent over to get my pop and something popped in my back and I was now a walking question mark, which got progressively worse all day. Needless to say I didn’t do much last weekend. My brother-in-law is an exercise physiologist; he prescribed stretching the muscles in my back. I told J I couldn’t even think about that. But Sunday after church he had me on the floor in his living room rolling out my muscles on a huge Styrofoam tube, which was supposed to help me, it did but I looked so ridiculous doing it. I pray I never need to do physical therapy in front of more than just my family.
The back is on the mend thankfully, however, yesterday I left work with a sore throat and this morning I woke up with a neck ache. I’m sure I just slept on it wrong, but it is painful to look to the right. I’m trying to avoid doing that but you can only favor your left side for so long, after awhile you just look weird. All these sudden ailments are just a bit too close together for my own comfort. Hence the opening line of I think I’m falling apart. How old are you before you need to have routine maintenance done? Have I reached that age? What else can I expect to happen? My eyesight is already terrible, my hair is starting to fall out, no not in clumps but there is way more in the bathtub drain than there used to be. J will not have any sympathy for me at all on this point. She feels she is more follicularly challenged than I am. (And yes, I just made up the word follicularly.)
Yes, I could exercise more, but I’d rather not. I try to avoid things that make me sweat. Why couldn’t just one of those infomercials be right? You know the one that claims if you wear the belt it will contract your stomach muscles for you and you get the equivalent of a workout while lying on the couch watching TV. That is the kind of exercising I’d love to do. (“Sorry, I can’t get up right now I’m exercising”)
I thought that I might start rollerblading. I actually do have a pair of roller blades. My little sister heard that and forbid me to engage in that particular activity. She told me I should just start walking I said if I roller bladed I’d get done faster. She clearly doesn’t understand the reasoning of doing exercising but on my terms, she’s worried I’m going to fall and break a hip or something. My brother-in-law was very encouraging; of course, he wanted my sister to join me. Which now that I think about it was probably why she forbid me to do it in the first place.
The reality is I will never choose to exercise over reading a good book, watching a movie, blogging or any other activity that doesn’t require me to raise my heart rate. I know I should. I need to start small and build. Maybe I’ll clean out my fridge, that’s exercising isn’t it? In the meantime does anyone know what liver spots look like?
9/12/08
Seattle, Washington Here I Come!
I found a great price on airfare through Orbit.com. Wednesday through Wednesday, from Pittsburgh to Seattle and back, for only $250.00. A great price, and so the course was set.
I do not like to leave home for any length of time. I have to leave the dogs and they get so depressed (I hate to disappoint them). My 19 year old still lives at home. He goes to school in the morning and works in the afternoon and into the early evening. Although he is in and out of the house throughout the day, I'm not certain what he'll do for sure. Will he let the dogs out on a consistent basis? Will he invite friends over? (He's not supposed to.) I just have to go away and not worry about any of that stuff. If I did, I'd never go anywhere. Besides, my dad is willing to check on the dogs several times a day and says that he will take care of things, not to worry.(I'm too young to start living like a recluse and so I resign myself to go and not worry) Besides, I can't wait to see Washington and discover what that part of the U.S. looks like. It seems as though it's a world away.
I left home at 4 a.m. to make my 6 a.m. flight. Needless to say, I made it to my gate in plenty of time; no hassles or delay of any kind. At the gate there were lots of people there early, just as I was, chatting, eating breakfast, reading, using their computers/blackberries, etc. I happen to sit back to back with "the talker" of the crowd. My first impression of him is that he would be delightful spouse; happy, just chattering and observing all things in a sort of funny way. From what I could gather, he and his wife, who was there with him, rescues animals and their house is a mess. He left a guy in charge of the animals. This guy, his caretaker, told him that his father-in-law hates him. To this, he tells the crowd, I'd hate him too. (everyone laughs) He goes on to tell what a loser he is, yet feels comfortable leaving everything he owns in his care. Hum? As his chatter continues on for a solid 30 minutes now I begin to reconsider the spouse thing; he never shuts up. (And they say women are bad) He did say something funny though; "Did you know that frogs are dying?" (I perked up for that. Oh no!) Yep, he says, they've been around since the dinosaurs...and they're dying. They figure, we're next, and he bursts into laughter." (I smiled. Was that a joke?)
Anyway, we eventually board a Boeing 767 and the flight was uneventful (thank God). I sat next to a young girl who slept the whole way. She didn't even wake up for the snack and beverage service. I thought about waking her but didn't want to impose. (She was quite plump and I couldn't imagine her wanting to miss out on the cookie) I even thought about getting an extra snack for her but I know myself pretty well, I could very well end up eating mine and hers if she sleeps too long. (Much to my surprise, Delta still serves peanuts and peanut butter crackers during the flight. I was shocked with all the peanut allergies these days) I pass on the extra snack and role of caretaker. Instead, I work on Sudoku puzzles and watch a bit of TV. Halfway through the movie it begins to skip and slur making it impossible to see what's going on. I call for the flight attendant and she refunds my money which is $2.00 for the headset. (Beverages are still free, except alcohol, of course. A snack is still offered, but get a load of this, menus are now available if you would like something more substantial than kibble. If you order from "the big black book", which looks oddly out of place, you pay just as you would at a restaurant. I saw lots of people eating their breakfast before they boarded, me included.) As soon as the flight attendant walks away, the movie resumes and is fine but I seemed to have missed the most important part. Now it didn't seem to make any sense at all.
I arrive in Seattle without a hitch. Even the plane change in Atlanta was nothing. I had 45 minutes to change planes there. Delta was on time and when I arrived at the other gate, they were boarding and we were off again in no time. (Get out there, fearful travelers! It's fine. You can do it!)
Washington is a beautiful state (What little of it I saw). I used to watch a show on television called Northern Exposure. That's what it reminds me of. There's a big sky, lots of timber (pine trees), mountains and water. It's really very lovely.
I visited my daughter, her husband and two grand-doggies. I often went to bed early and worked on the computer (checking the blog, e-bay, e-mail, craigslist, and playing games. Before you know it I'd be tired and ready to sleep. Sounds exciting, huh? To me it was a great luxury to do nothing but relax and enjoy my daughter. It took me a few days to get adjusted to the time change, they are three hours behind us. We woke up and enjoyed the morning with coffee, sitting on porch, or watching another episode of "How Clean Is Your House?" The houses to which Kim and Trudy visit are so incredibly filthy and unkept, that it is impossible to look away as they scrape up a bit of crud with a fingernail for inspection or smell the kitchen sponge. (It's on the BBC. No one lives like that in America, do they?)We went out to eat a few times, enjoying the local fish, we shopped, and went to garage sales and flea markets. What did I find? Well, I love old rolling pins. Now I have a collection. What do they say? One is a possession, two is a collection and three is an obsession. How fun! I found a great old rolling pin that's large and heavy. It looks like oak. The only reason I would buy something like that and be willing to transport it back home is that it was unusual. I don't know how to describe how it's put together except to say that instead of nails or screws or any type of metal mechanism to hold it together, it has small wooden wedges on the end of each handle. Very unique and a real gem! As I was shelling out the money for that one, a deal for $10.00, another vendor is calling to me saying that he has a great rolling pin too. He says his is prettier and has green handles. I explain that I will be flying home in a few days and doubt that I will have room in my suitcase to take much back. With that he offers me his rolling pin for $2.00. I couldn't resist. She's probably quite common and not very old, maybe from the fifties, but I snatch her up and she's mine.
If you've followed my blogs, I love old books as well, particularly old religious books. I found one called "Wickedness in Modern Society." I fall in love with it at a glance and hope that what's inside rivals the title. I glance through it and know it will provide for some interesting reading. (The wickedness the author speaks of is not the atrocities and lewdness that have unfortunately have become quite common in our day and time, but it's more about drinking, lying, profanity and such. You know, the things that most people see nothing wrong with today.) This book; this treasure, is not for me, (I have to keep saying that). "It's not for me, it's not for me...." T's birthday was in July and I had taken her out to lunch but never hit on anything that seemed fitting as a gift for my good friend. I felt she would love this old book and that too went into the bag. I imagine for a moment her teaching a lesson on modesty, for example, and saying, "And now I will read a quote from Wickedness in Modern Society", 1891.)Ah, I amuse myself.
Next we came upon a guy who had a whole bunch of brand new hand tied flies, for fly fishing, of course. I bought 6 for my son. In hind sight I wish I would have offered him $20.00 for the whole lot, I bet he would have taken it. The last thing I bought was a hoot. It was an old ceramic bank that looked like a pile of cigarette butts and a skeleton trying to crawl out from underneath them. Fabulous! (I think my 25 year old smokes.) I call my daughter over and ask whether I should buy it for him. We laugh and she says it will probably just make him mad. We decide it's far too neat to give to him, he may not appreciate it. I decide to put it in his room and when he comes home for a visit, he can look at it there.
Ahhh...the simple joys of life. My visit there was like one big visit to the spa or a great massage. I left there feeling very happy. My daughter and her husband are quite content with each other and their new surroundings. They have two crazy dogs that are a constant source of laughter and fun. Mothers all across the world know that when their kids are happy, then they are happy.
On a serious note before I left there I encouraged my daughter, Eva, to study the scripture and gave her some tips on ways to do that. One way to study, I told her, was to pick a topic and then really study it. She and Dan could do it together. Pick a topic, give yourselves a week to find what you can on the subject, learn as much as you can so that you could teach a lesson on it and then come together and present what you've amassed. It's fun and it's interesting. It's also part of our service to God. Matt.11:29 "Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me..."
She was quiet but I felt good, as though my advise was received well. Much to my delight she called me the other day to tell me that she chose a study topic and it was that of pearls. She was surprised at all the mention of precious gems in the scripture. There were some negative mention of pearls, and of course, common scriptures such as don't cast your pearls before swine and the pearl of great price. She said the funniest thing happened that day, Aunt Pearl called. That would be her great grand-mother's youngest sister, the last remaining sibling. I think she's 85 now. The amazing thing is that Aunt Pearl has never called Eva. Eva was surprised at the co-incidence and after sharing this little blessing with Pearl, I think they both felt warm inside; as though it was meant for them to talk that day and a confirmation of her efforts. (What a nice way for God to say, Keep up the good work, my child. Study my word!)
What a blessing for me as her mother to know that she is applying herself to the good things in life. Not the things beneath, but the things that are above. Thank you God! I thank you sincerely, with all my heart.
Next Sunday she is going to study the word "goat". I'll be sure not to call then.
9/11/08
Fall
I love fall. I always have. I may be alone in this (although I believe that J shares this affinity) but I love the cool weather that signals the start of autumn. I like watching the leaves turn their amazing colors at this time of the year. I am by no means a gardener, but I can appreciate the beauty of it. I loved starting school, the buying of school supplies and even now I feel the pull of buying paper, pencils, crayons and the like, I try to content myself with one purchase but I could easily buy a cart full of stuff. There is nothing like the smell of a freshly sharpened pencil or a new box of crayons. What can I say I have simple tastes.
I know there are many that look on this time of the year with something akin to dread, but I never have. I realize that for some this signals an end of something. And, of course, that is true. Harvest time, an end of the planting season, school, an end of long days of leisure. The land begins its preparation for its winter slumber. But I can’t help be moved by the beauty of this time of year. In Michigan, where I live, we sometimes skip right from winter to summer and back again, but when we have a real fall, I revel in it. This week we’ve had a bit of a cold snap in the mornings, which after a summer of 80 and 90 degree weather is a welcome change for me.
I’m also a fan of the foods associated with this time of the year, sadly. I say sadly because if I let myself I could really pack on the pounds. I am trying to remain vigilant in that respect but when I’m faced with fresh cider and hot donuts my willpower begins its slow descent into non-existent. Let’s not even talk about caramel apples and pumpkin pie.
I guess for me I’ve never really viewed fall as an end. This was always a time of new beginnings in some respect. New classes, new supplies, a new season. Which makes me consider the fact that certain situations are simply what we make of them. I am trying to learn that lesson, that how I perceive something will shade my attitude toward it. Viewing things with apprehension and dread will certainly manifest itself as such. Looking at life with eyes that see possibility instead of defeat can only improve my outlook. I fail miserably at this often, but I find myself wanting to do better, to be better.
So, as the summer ebbs slowly into fall, my hope is to be more attuned to those around me, less self absorbed, to put those good examples I see every day into practice. And I wonder, not for the first time, if I’m too old to buy a new box of crayons.
9/3/08
First day of school...
As did most children, my soon-to-be 4 year old niece started preschool yesterday. Now this is not necessarily an unusual event, many, many children her age start preschool, and she is definitely ready. She is the youngest of my sister’s 5 children. Yes, 5 children, a girl, 2 boys and then 2 girls. I tried to get her to stop after the first two, my reason being she had one of each it wasn’t like she could have a different kind. Of course, now, there isn’t one you would wish she didn’t have; they are all unique and wonderful in their own way.
When my oldest niece started school 13 years ago, I began a tradition which still stands today. Every year just before school begins I take the kids that are in school to the shoe store and buy them new sneakers of their choice. The deal was they’d get a pair of shoes from me until they graduated high school; my oldest niece just graduated and has since “aged-out.”
Honestly, I don’t think too much about this process. I know the kids look forward to it with anticipation. They know that this one time price is not an object, and they roam the aisles of the shoe store looking for their choice. I should say they have never taken advantage of me and don’t go looking for $100 shoes, which is why I don’t mind doing this little treat for them. I just show up with my check book. Getting back to my original thought, which is my almost 4 year old niece, Faithie. This should have been her year too. As my oldest niece aged-out she would be coming in to replace her. The difference here is that my niece Faithie has had Spina Bifida since her birth.
So this year was the year I actually thought about the shoe buying process when I realized that Faithie really wouldn’t be joining the other kids in this yearly rite of passage. Because of this disease we’ve grown to accept, she sits in a wheel chair and due to different muscle issues doesn’t wear shoes. I am not normally a very emotional person, but I found myself crying like a baby at this realization.
Now before you think that this post is going to be full of tears and regret, this is not my intention. Faithie knows no other way. She is unconcerned for the most part about shoes or things she is missing. When she got her first wheelchair we were more worried about it than she was. She took to it immediately and was zooming around the house looking at and reaching things she never could from her constant floor crawling. There was some concern that she would be brain damaged when she was born, happily that is not the case. She is a bright, articulate, happy, almost 4 year old that has an amazing retention of animal names. I always joke with my sister that she’s the smartest kid she’s got, of course I never say that around the other kids, what kind of an aunt do you think I am?!? :)
Yesterday was her first day of school and as her slightly over protective aunt I was concerned about how she would do. I prayed that it would be a good, positive experience for her. When I talked to my sister later in the day she assured me that she loved it. My sister and brother-in-law met her at school that morning, Faithie rode the bus, they stayed around a bit making sure she was ok with the whole first day thing. After about 10 minutes my sister told her “Ok, we’re going to go home now and we’ll see you after school, ok?” Faithie said, “You’re leaving?” My sister said, “Yes, we’ll see you at home.” Faithie replied, “Ok, you go have some fun.” She turned back to the class and that was it. My sister’s boys were never this easy. They always cried when she left.
She came home on the bus and had a wonderful first day. She knows all the names of her teachers, the bus driver, and the kids she rides the bus with. She was thrilled with her new back pack and her Hello Kitty lunch box. She was raring to go this morning.
I think about her outlook on life and wonder what it will be. Will she feel regret at not being able to do things or will she never look back and simply do whatever she sets her mind to. I like to think it will be the latter. Sometimes I forget to look at each day the way she does, a new adventure. As adults we get bogged down with trials and problems that exhaust us. That really isn't how I want to go through this life, but sometimes it's difficult to shake it off. I hope Faithie's attitude never, ever changes and I hope I can take a page from her book and remember to have some fun.
8/14/08
Yes, another post about the Olympics
There is a song that we sing in church that has a verse in it that I quote back to myself often, it makes reference to the assorted problems of life and how they can be exhausting. (Due to copyright issues I will not quote the verse or the chorus here, you’ll just have to trust me that this song is utterly fantastic.) This week I’m feeling a bit exhausted mentally. Too many decisions to make where I feel I’m simply choosing the lesser of the two evils. For me there are only two things to do when I am feeling this way, the first is to eat my weight in chocolate or, second, find something else to think about. Since eating my weight in chocolate would only bring me temporary relief and a more permanent weight gain, I opted for door number 2.
My distraction of choice happens to be the Olympics. Yes, I admit it I am an Olympic junkie. This is a useless information gatherer’s dream! (see this post for an explanation) I will confess that I prefer the winter Olympics; I’m more of an aficionado of that sport genre. But, hey, any port in a storm.
During these 16 days of competition I am at my information gathering best. Of course, all the major news outlets make the job much easier by having extensive information available with just a few clicks of the mouse. The stuff you can find out is amazing and I soak it up like a sponge. Yes, I know after the 24th of August this will all be in the past and even with the recent doping scandals that have been in the news I still find myself admiring these athletes that compete.
I was watching a replay of the USA Men’s Swimming Relay team win their gold, (Beijing is 12 hours ahead of us), and I have to admit I get teary watching the US athletes win and listening to our anthem being played. I am, after all, an American and have been blessed to be born in this country, regardless of its idiosyncrasies and problems, and in a day when Americans are hated I’m proud of our Olympic Team and wish them the best in their pursuit of their athletic dreams. Go Team USA!
The stars of these games, especially for those in a less popular sport, will have their moment. And for many it will be brief, but that moment can never be taken from them. I was listening to an announcer on the Canadian TV station, (they have real time coverage which I LOVE) say this about the athlete swimming next to Michael Phelps in one of his events, “that young man will always be able to say I beat Michael Phelps out of the turn!” Michael Phelps did win that event, but the other less known Olympian will be able to tell his children and grandchildren that he competed with the world’s best and that he was one of them.
China is having a banner Olympics, and I guess that’s to be expected, home field advantage and all. But I watched the whitewater kayaking event and the athlete from Togo, Benjamin Thomas Boukpeti, competed and won the bronze medal. Going into the final round he was in the lead, from what the color commentators were saying the course was very tough. I believe them, I would never even think about attempting kayaking, let alone the whitewater variety. He lost the lead and placed 3rd. When he was finished he was so happy he won a medal, he didn’t care what color it was. He was thrilled to win. I was thrilled for him. He won the only Olympic medal ever for Togo. The only medal EVER. Way to go Ben.
I could go on and on. The tidbits of information one can find during these action packed days of Olympic competition is astonishing. I am in hog’s heaven. I will read the stats, the obscure rules, and assorted random facts and commit as much to my memory banks as possible, regardless of what J says about me, I have limits. And for 16 days I will forget about the politics of the world and enjoy the thrill of competition, even if it is only vicariously. I will not fail to get misty when I hear the Star-Spangled Banner being played. I will enjoy watching gold medal athletes from other countries show their patriotism when listening to their anthems. I hope all the athletes from these games, whether they medal or not, live their moment. And if, by some chance, Useless Information Gathering could qualify as an Olympic Sport, I am so in!
7/29/08
The Joys of Online Dating or “Did he really just ask me this question?”
Initially, I started writing a much different post. I even had J read it. It was very poignant. Full of the angst I was feeling at the moment and still feel somewhat. I wrote with the idea of posting it here in some attempt to relieve myself of those feelings of rejection and hurt. I kept telling myself I was trying to achieve some kind of catharsis. When I still hadn’t posted it this morning I got an email from J wondering why. My reply to her was I wasn’t sure if it merited posting. What I mean by that is, was this post really indicative of the person I am?
My answer is no it wasn’t. I don’t mean that I’m some super woman that life’s trials and setbacks are just tiny blips on my radar. Far from it. I often feel things deeply and they affect me more than I let on. But, that is not what defines me. So, instead of posting my previously depression filled and rejection ridden piece, I’ve decided to go another way and share some of the ridiculous things I’ve encountered in the world that is online dating.
I realize at the start of this, that some may not think this is the correct avenue with which to secure a spouse. I felt like that too, initially. However, I was still in my 20’s then and the dating picture didn’t seem so…bleak and my views were high and lofty. And now, well, here I am using online dating services and hoping for a love match. (I can hardly believe I just wrote that but there it is.)
I have, for the last several years, been a member of one of the more popular online dating websites. You know the one where the guy goes online finds the girl gets married, decides to get his mom on the site because he was so successful and lo, and behold, dear old mom finds a new husband too! Yeah, that’s the one. The testimonials are fabulous. They are all from successful participants. They had a few not so perfect matches but then one day, they were matched with their soul mate. Many of them say how grateful they are that they decided to commit to the service for a year and how wonderful that they did because 1 month before their membership was expiring they found “the one”. Sigh…it makes the heart of a hopeless romantic go pitter-pat. And of course, while still in that warm and fuzzy place where you’re thinking this could be me in a year, you enter, with hands shaking in anticipation, your credit card number and sign up for membership. You go to bed that night and sleep the sleep of the contented knowing when you wake in the morning you will have a list of possibilities at your disposal.
It doesn’t exactly happen that way. For me there is often a long (really, really long) wait between viable prospects. I’ve actually used the option where you can have the service refresh your profile to see if there’s been anyone new added to the system in the last 24 hours, only to be told “Sorry, there are still no matches for you.” (A little like the Soup Nazi from Seinfeld.) Now lest you think I’m being too picky, here’s an example of some I’ve been matched with.
Recently, I was matched with a guy that was near my age, a couple years younger from NJ. I do not live in NJ but I thought I would just give him a look. You never know maybe he’d be willing to relocate, right? I open his profile and he seems normal and he actually has a picture. You’d be surprised how many guys do not. (Don’t even get me started on the guys that post their high school football picture and then you are in for the shock of your life when you actually meet and he looks like a different person.) I decide to look at the picture a little more closely. I click on it and when it opens in a window large enough for me to see it without the aid of a magnifying glass, I realize something. The picture that he has provided, that after I read his profile and feel like this person could be an option, is one of him taken with a webcam in his pajamas. Yes, HIS PAJAMAS! And not even cool, GQ guy pajamas, not even the “hey, a t-shirt and sweats is how I roll” pajamas. These were oddly reminiscent of my grandfather’s plaid flannel pajamas. Is this really how you want to be portrayed to the members of the opposite sex? “Well, I wasn’t sure if he was the one but when I saw him in my grandpa’s pajamas, I just knew.” Do I really have to explain why I closed this match?
Another guy that I had actually made it through the guided communication stage with and was in the open communication stage with, asked me in the very first message if I had ever been pregnant. I was a little dumbfounded at that. Not because it isn’t a valid question, but perhaps you might want to space it out a bit and actually exchange a few pleasantries first. Oh, I don’t know like “Hi!” or “I’ve enjoyed getting to know you so far” or even, for the truly daring, “You have a great smile!” I felt like I needed to forward my medical records, or assure him that I still had all the original equipment and my warranty was still in force. Maybe he wanted to see pictures of my teeth or something.
One guy listed his age as 50; I still looked at this profile. I thought, you know, age is relative. When I got to the bottom of his profile, in the box provided where you can share whatever bit of information the profile didn’t cover, he has this note: “I’m really 10 years older than what I listed. I really want to have children and the matches they were sending me were all too old.”
Why am I telling you all this? Well, first it’s funny, who would believe it? But really I just need to know that in spite of the fact that I am single through no fault of my own, that God does see my plight and He does care. I hope that if you are married and reading this and know someone that’s single and is struggling through these same issues that you give them a hug when you see them next and add them to your prayer list. Please consider carefully the advice you give them. We know that we are supposed to be like Paul says: content in whatsoever state we are in. We know that Jesus too was rejected, and that when you’re married you trade your single problems in for married problems. And while every marriage isn’t hearts and flowers being single isn’t the best of all worlds either.
The impetus behind this particular post is the result of another false start. Someone I was matched with that in my eyes, and the eyes of a trusted friend, looked promising. He even lived only 45 minutes away! However, there was a sticking point on religion, one that to him seemed impossible to breach. We politely ended the messaging but I’ve been left feeling a little rejected and sorry for myself again. It’s not easy trying to put yourself out there time after time, hoping that someone realizes you’re wonderful and they can’t live without you, (ok, well that’s what you hope they realize), and when that fairy tale crumbles you have to somehow find the will to pick yourself up and try it over again.
As I said I’ve been given loads of advice over the years that run the gamut, from cut your hair, let it grow, lose some weight, buy some new clothes, wear more make-up, wear less make-up, change your perfume, just to list a few. The best advice I got was from J, my blogging buddy, who simply said, “It stinks, it really stinks." That was exactly what I needed to hear at that moment. She also gave me the tip to beat a pillow senseless. :)
I only know this: I will continue to follow Paul's advice and try to learn to be content and be thankful for where I am. To remember that God thinks I'm wonderful even if I don't think that about myself. And in the meantime, move over Skinny Cow and hello, Ben and Jerry's. After work I'm going to get a gallon of Cherry Garcia and when I wake up from that sugar coma it'll be a brand new week!
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